Special Report: Depression & Autism

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The death last Monday of the famous actor/comedian, Robin Williams has opened yet another opportunity to discuss depression.
Robin Williams had died from an apparent suicide last Monday morning (PT) at his Bay Area, CA home. He was 63. He was dealing with financial problems, and also was dealing with his cancelation of his TV show, The Crazy Ones, likely due to low overnight ratings. Other reports claim he was dealing with an onset of Parkinson’s (unable to confirm that here.) He was in many films from Jumanji (which apparently according to the Union Leader, was filmed in Southwest NH), Mrs. Doubtfire, Bicentennial Man, voiced over the Genie in Disney’s Aladdin , and many more movies and will appear in 6 more films ready to be released in the coming year. Older readers may recall him in the 70s TV series Mork & Mindy, which was the catalyst to his career.
Williams had said in the past he was dealing with depression and went into rehab 8 years ago. He dealt with drugs and alcohol. A month ago, it was confirmed he was going back into rehab, citing “tuning up” his sobriety. In any case it was likely too late, as something caused him to kill himself last week.
It would not be appropriate to discuss – or speculate why he did it nor mentioning if he was a coward or not to do that. I’d like to turn the focus on to the topical status of depression.
Whether or not depression is part of autism, or autism causes depression, or it’s a similar but different, or it’s caused genetically (like from your crazy uncle – literally) or not, the fact is depression and autism  can go in tandem. There is no doubt about that, despite how many PhD hacks you talk to. Depression and ASD can be caused by various factors, becoming an adolescent, coming to a realization that you are “different” or just the poor execution of your support system’s ability to help you.
I know people who are in their late twenties in some level of depression. I myself have dealt with this on and off at least for the last 15 years. If you had followed this blog for the last few years, I’ve really held “the system” accountable for lot of the damages caused to me.
There is a taboo in the developmental disabled and the mental disorder community whether or not both practices should merge. Psychiatric, mental disorders and developmental disorders 3 different things traditionally. There are various methods in treating them, but they are all different. That doesn’t mean that they should come together or be recognized as dual issues. Because these disorders are so separate, the delivery system for services and support are separate. Whose to say someone with severe autism is also dealing with depression? Whose to say someone with Down’s could be bipolar? Also why are we so focused on the disorder and so worried about going to the right agency to get services or should I say the best services since in some areas, mental disorders and developmental disorders are handled by two different services?
Also its been a cliche all week long about how mental health services are not addressed properly. I’d go even further and say mental health services for people with autism are also limited too. In my area, there are a handful of psychologists that ether specialize in autism, or has a working knowledge of autism. (The other handful focuses on ADHD and Asperger’s Syndrome, which I’m leaving out because people with AS can choose to not be a odd, weird talking liberal moonbat, and act like everyone else. Sorry I don’t respect people with AS.)
Despite the contrary, New Hampshire in the downstate region is part of the Greater Boston metro region, and even in the most world class cities in the world, this area and probably even the Mass. Merrimack Valley also lacks in mental health services for dual dx’d mental and developmentally ill clients.  I blame part of the Boston snobbery that insists civility doesn’t exist north and west of I-495.
In closing, there needs to be a national discussion with trying to eliminate the stigma of depression; and another track to discuss why so many people with autism or other related disorders are falling into the cracks and why so many arrogant leaders are not realizing there is a depression problem with the autistic community. Especially in the twentysomething crowds, where many grew up in the dark ages of autism being a mysterious and unknown disorder and had parents not knowing where to go and school districts not putting focus on them. If we can’t take this opportunity to discuss this problem, there will be another tragedy that won’t get mentioned because they aren’t a celebrity.

The Need to Be Happy

Has anyone watched The Kardashians lately? I watch some reality shows for pure entertainment and to put my life into perspective.
Outside of the sisters the Jenner girls and the Jenner boys, one guy stands out of the bunch lately. That is Robert Kardashian Jr. also known as Rob.
For the last couple seasons (at least) he’s been in a rut. I think last summer it had something to do with his late father and how each one of the kids interaction with him prior to his cancerous death about a decade ago. Rob at the time was about 16 (actually we share the same almost actual birthday – I think he was born March 11? I was the 12…)  and the girls were in their early 20s except for Khloe who is only 2 years older than Rob. That first bout of depression was featured last summer in a 2 part therapy session discussing that specific time with cutaways of him tearing up and crying throughout those episodes.
He was so depressed that same season where he was living with one of the sisters and was sleeping during the day. Totally an emotional wreck you probably thought it was Kim with all this alleged depression.
Now this season of the series Rob’s got another bout of depression. Hes gotten fat. Why am I surprised and shocked, shocked, I ask? It wouldn’t be surprising given his lazy bum demeanor, eating, not exercising (sorry I should rephrase that since I don’t how what hes going thru and I don’t know him) and who knows what else. So now hes depressed about his weight. (I share the same feelings Rob!)
He didn’t go to a family trip to Greece with both the Jenner and Kardashian family. On episode 1 he was planning to go, and actually dragged Brody Jenner to come with them. Brody is kinda like the Rob in the 1st Gen of the Jenner family presently the one of the low self esteem and being forgotten in the bigger family.
Well Brody went – sans Rob. And the 3rd and final episode of the Greece trip will be Sunday night – and I am not a betting man, but I don’t think Rob will show up.
Earlier in the season, Kris Jenner (the mother) was trying to lift Rob’s spirits. (This isn’t the first episode that featured someone trying to help Poor Ol’ Rob – make it a Bakers Dozen – I’ve lost count!) Among the many catchphrases in the theme of Rob’s depression its phrases like “I want him to be happy” or “I want you to follow your heart” or something like “do something that makes you happy.”
I’ll end there with the show and move onto this whole need “to be happy.”
I think there has been an idea floating around for about a generation or so about this need to be happy. Happiness likely comes within. You can choose to be happy, and Rob obviously chose a certain path for quite a while now.
However another argument is that there is something called a “quarter-life crisis” – a smaller degree to the mid life crisis. Some would argue that is making these Milennial types an excuse to not move forward with their life, but  I think there is some validity to that argument too.
I think this goes back to all groups (not just for autistics – but for everyone) of a lot of “mixed messages” that starts in the high school level. According to “experts” the brain now peaks in the mid 20s, as opposed to the teenage years, I beg to differ, but the underlying problem is just how poor communication people are talking to teenage and the young population. You have one side that says “you should do this”  vs. another side “you can do this.” This doesn’t help manners for anyone.
I think people need to realize that the younger population of teenagers and adolescents and then some that when they become the age of being independent they are often confused, therefore causing a depression that can be totally averted.
However, on the flip side of the token, maybe society and as a group of people maybe we need to redefine what is “happiness”, what defines is, how should you be happy, is it a requirement and what do you do if you aren’t “happy,”
I feel the word “Happy” or “Happiness” or “Follow Your Dreams” has hit the cliche level – and whats happening (and its been going on for at least the last 20 years – in the masses) is we are getting people depressed for reasons that might be averted. Its not necessarily self-esteem, or the self-gratification or self-absorbed behavior, I am happy to report that this isn’t has a hot button issue like explained.
Its a systemic issue that needs to be fixed because as a teenager – your mind is very vulnerable. It’s not just growing, its at risk for any damages such as mental junk to go into your brain.
And for the Kardashians? Some of their problems are real, however it is sadly dramatized which I fear that family problems in the real world get dramatized like in the show. That kinda makes me a little on the edge.
However the only suggestion I could give to Rob Kardashian, is to get some help. It doesn’t look good that hes on TV looking the way he has been, that’s for sure.
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