In the early years of An Alleged Autistic and A Puzzling View, a common thread was feminism, but that was completely a simplistic view (particularly your’s truly with a twentysomething mind), since a lot of my writings was actually under intelligent for what I can write today. In fact this feminism masquerading as female chauvinism from schoolage was the root cause for me to go into hopeless and seeing relationships more puzzling. It took multiple abuses to see through the garbage that was “progressive” education

Feminism related to Autism is not as simple, because it’s not the leveling up from women that caused the problem. The problem is masculinity, toxic masculinity to be exact. In 2020, when I was pushed out of my day program, in the midst of the first wave of COVID19, I started to reassess myself what the hell happened to me, was it just me or was it others, and I could learn so I am not a PITA?

(As a sidenote, anyone who follows this subject and sees “mindful masculinity” appearing on podcasts, books and more books, and the overall interwebz… well that’s great for others, me and perhaps others in my group need to recover first from Female Chauvinism™ – the people who fucking have autistic conditions!; before we can even attempt to parse through what needs to be fixed in the manly world. Leave it to the typicals!)

First off, let’s try to simply define masculinity, without getting too verby. Let’s define masculine traits. Men like status, men are entitled with privilege, a lot of freedom without responsibility, men like to dismiss, extinguish, deflect any responsibility. Ass kissing, brown nosing is typical with guys that like to get ahead. They also like to be hypercompetitive. They are worse aggressive.

Any of these behaviors in autism (as of April 2022 1 in 44 cases), with a traditional gender ratio of 4 out of 5 being boys are within the crosshairs of being toxic people, so many of my group got thrown into being painted in the broadest brush (see the 2013 Tell All in A Puzzling View). Being a typical-male was scandalous, but even worse it was done by women, empowered by women, enforced by women, and therefore with no sistah-to-sistah-accountability, these people are really hurting most of my group’s potential, and as such it’s really important to know this could very well be an underlying issue with guys exiting from SPED and confused.

If there is no data to support it, well then I like to know if there is a correlation of leveling the gender differences between adult males and females and if feminism has caught up with the ol and dated world of toxic masculinity – S. Clickford 2022

There was a running joke to my circles that the “feminists” that I worked with (that were extremely liberal, and were not afraid to advertise their prejudices, but was quickly able to shut you up), hated me, except for the ones they are married, got laid and had kids. Those men are OK, but not the ones they would work with. Some of their hubbies were technical professionals, and well as you probably know I gave up on IT just solely because of the pervasive manly issues in that culture (not to mention the changes in the industry that made me have zero interest in 2022.) It doesn’t even take a Bachelors of Education to realize that working mostly teenage boys and just out of college, probably isn’t the smartest career, especially with imbalanced hormones.

In these 30something years of being caught up in this abuse, I strongly hate masculinity even more, and would take a traditional feminine role at all costs, because the abuse was so per. So if there was a perception that I hate women, it was this alleged feminism of leveling on toxic masculinity that was the root cause, not the gender because that was not the underlying problem.

The problem was there was so many man-hating feminists that it made it too simple to say “oh yeah, my teachers were so manly in feminine attire, I couldn’t tell it apart!” And over a decade after the effects – in reality, it was. In retrospect, it made me redefine my frustrations that masculinity has been more toxic than feminism was in the last 1/2 century.

Like other screwed groups, my group was at high risk for getting the short end of the stick.