pick me mom

a pick me mom is a mom who uses self depreciation to make her children feel guilty, and pay attention to their mom more.” – Urban Dictionary

autism mom

A mother of an autistic child. Often considers herself a superhero for raising an autistic child, victimizes herself, and expresses negativity or grief about her child’s condition. Likely supports Autism Speaks and the puzzle piece (both offensive to autistic people). Same site, different definition 

How I define an Autism Parent

a self-identified Autism Mom or Autism Dad is an individual whose made their identity on a child whose autistic, while they are not. They use self depreciation to make others feel guilty, make themselves the attention and using said behaviors to make the autistic child feel guilty and instruct therapy by forced-sympathy. They are very use victimization against themselves or others by expressing their negativity often unfiltered and coming off inhumane – From your’s truly 

 

They say what’s posted online is forever. They teach people on the spectrum online safety, and not to speak shit about your parents, like typicals are expected not to…

The Rules for Thee But Not For Me is their real approach…

Kaelynn Partlow, also known as Kaylynn’s Autistic Angle across multiple platforms shares things on her Meta page from all parts of the spectrum

What she shared the other day was from another Meta page called Kreed’s World: A Complex Journey Through Autism that comes off at the first blush as yet another typical autism-mom material, taking the most challenging moments and post it online for the whole world to see probably to get validation and self attention.

Like this 42 second video I decided to editorially cut the worst part and use that for 10 seconds so the rest of you don’t have to.

Oh wait the page’s name is something else? Is this a page of someone on the spectrum where the individual is the ghostwriter, but the parent is really the author? Pretty misleading huh?

Apparently doing more digging, the individual is dead, which leads to more discussion on the ethics of one’s legacy even if they were lower functioning – does that mean you post their worst moments… autism does not have to be forever either! Again more digging, makes me learn that Kreed passed away just about 8 years to the day

But April should remind every perceived Pick-Me-Mom meets Exceptional Parenting of a Disabled Child, just because your child has a disability, it does not give you an open license to exploit your child for your own ego. This expectation should also apply to #ActuallyAutistic people who often are crude and rude then hide behind the screen using their “autism” as a cover. However I think this is more common in parents than individuals

The Age Of Autism  in modern ASD history started the trend to covert narcissism, with frequent commenters saying it was the injustice of Big Pharma that caused their child’s autism  When you have one of the lead writers say nothing about her son’s autism as just merely a second class hierarchal child or the very neurotic Italian chick who you can tell she’s writing it with her signature passive-aggressive or always wanting-the-last-word (not to mention talking about her girls’ menstrual cycles – to a site that appears to be a modern day paperless newspaper with very low editorial standards.