Upon research this morning before publication, blurb showed about 4 million blogs are online according to BYU, on parenting.

While I couldn’t find a stat on a Google search on so-called “Autism Parent” blogs, there is no data, but let’s lump them into the parenting blogs, without the toxic sullen, covert narcissism of how their autistic child can’t do any damn thing.

While this may be sketchy on the Google side, I did try to find statistics on teenage blogs or abandoned children, etc., no avail.

Let’s put it this way,  The Hopeless Autistic is one of the few on the Web that is focusing on crictical view of parents from a child, nearly 40 – that has “failed to launch” and narcissism experts like Dr. Ramani Duvasula would put that type as a narcissist, which I think is a bit unfair looking at how so many Generation Z is really struggling to grow up from the militant culture of Gen X, their parents.

The “helicopter parenting”, the “authorative parenting”, and other types of parenting has whored the Web for more than a decade. Why are there so many group-think blogs out there? Why is there these spaces that aren’t not private facing, and on that note, why is there so many private autism parenting Facebook groups? Or how the snooty suburban housewives are on the playground sounding like they’re already drunk coming into their Land Rover about “Googling about vaccines and autism” and how such group think has lead to even more problems. Gawd, I really wished these Gen Xers were not here!

The way that mommy-blogs talk about how to parent your child, is so alarming, because why should there be 4 million voices on how to parent? And even in the analog world there’s so many, sooo many books on parenting that in the olden days when Waldonbooks or B. Dalton (both had since been acquired by Barnes & Noble) would probably fill one shelf? But since the days of book stores in malls, go to a B&N and there’s rows of showcases of “parenting” books!

I have to say that parenting is now become some form of a subjective art, and objective standards of parenting, that was typically written by esteemed experts in academia. Oh wait, Gen X and maybe some Millennials are anti-establishment, so that might be the reason.

This group think doesn’t allow for challenging, because you would be construed as a spoiled rotten Millennial or Gen Alpha. Many of these voices are encouraging really strict, or highly structured ways to raise a child,  Parents need a “space” to vent or need validation and that leads to narcissism in the parent.

”Share-nting” that is the generation that parents over-share about their hierarchal children on social media also apply to the blogosphere too. Specifically the autism-moms and people like Kim Rossi – Stagligano, from the Age of Autism, who has been surprised that her autistic daughters could develop menstruation, and posted at nausiem about her daughters  menstruation, period panties, etc. She uses her children’s handicap as the excuse for everything, autism defines her daughters, everything is Autism’s fault, not the poor parenting, or the Type-A undertone or her hot headed self. She has even shared publicly for her kids to grow up, she literally threw out things forcing them to snap out of that phase (very Gen-Xer right there)

The Dr. Ramanis of the world have looked platforms like Facebook older Zoomers are now coming to age and had their entire lives “documented” on places like Facebook, but then there’s the influencer class that have exploited their children for cash like the infamous ACE Family on YouTube a few years ago.

Since autism is so geographically diverse not to mention psychologically diverse, the spaces online are very identity driven on that class of politics. I really talk about poor policies, poor ideas and issues because I am struggling to fit in.

It’s actually disrespectful to say “get down at the eye level of the child and talk to them in way they can understand” but that’s just some hot shot whippersnapper telling an older geriatric Xer how to parent.

Children do not have any voices online, and obviously very few will publish a blog about their experiences, some may go to YouTube. Like in journalism, the secondary subject has a right to comment, and for many many years for me, as a hierarchical child where I should’ve been breaking away from my mother, to find a YCS figure, to become a father myself, has been stunted by a damaged -goods female (thanks to my goddamned father)  who wanted me to be an extension of her. That undertones sounds lot about the who culture of open-parenting, and the art of it, when it was again not discussed liberally to the world or even in private spaces, and as a result this is why parents are so whacked out with anti-vaccines, helicopter parenting, to the fringe peer-enting (really seen in Boomers/Millennials), etc.