Editorial Note: I shouldn’t be sharing this, but obviously i am staying very generic as possible, to the point I am leaving state agencies out just so it doesn’t look so obvious. Second version corrects initial typos
Somewhere in the largest city today; we went to see my family member transitioning from mental health needs to early stage dementia. It has been one year since they were brought in, quasi voluntarily. Ironically this family member wanted to go to this facility prior to and was turned away within a month before.
Today “the unit” was full. Of 22 beds, at least 20 were filled. The noises carried. Ironically my ears were turning to the other people talking and they weren’t nearby. This family member is now more soft spoken than before. People looked like-me, some people look more “mental” than others. Given this is the holidays, I am not surprised to witness so many people there.
I stared at the Christmas Tree as my mother was talking to them, just as I was thinking about the last 52 weeks. We keep our lifestyles private to prevent creating jealousy because the other staff that takes him out once a week for about an hour will talk about what they do, when he’s locked up there. Earlier in the year, my family member mentioned it “like a jail”.
Things are not looking well at the state level for the funding and case management. I’ve heard recently that the “case got closed” by the state human services agency (you know the four letters, I’m withholding it because technically I shouldn’t be writing this, but I am writing this as observation.) It’s similar to me it’s handed to a different type of NGO of an area agency, but they are short staffed to take new clients. Multiple agencies. It could be a benefit surplus because this family member has been locked up for a freckin year.
Not to mention the intentional miscomms of boss-biaches picking and choosing when to take responsibility and deflect it for shits and giggles. Get too much money and “case closed” and no one up in Concord probably doesn’t know nearly a quarter of the shit that’s been going on south, because because bad behavior must be on the down-low.
Did I mention the Section 8 will get cut end of the month because the authorities of the housing agencies are aware that no one is living there for now a full calendar year? The funny BS was the family member was supposed to inform the housing authority because their they are their own guardian, and even though they “voluntarily” went to the ward (ahem, “strongly encouraged” = we pushed ‘em”.) It’s just a game IRL of She-Said-She-Said of which biach will out do the other in that such toxic work environment where they get probably paid moose crap to the dollar!
The intern that was once my family member’s “case manager” who a year ago was getting a masters in psych, told us, that some people are at that facility for as long as 2 years (the extreme cases.) Well I think it’s safe to say that “extreme case” for us is that his care people had abandoned him exactly 1 year ago this week.
Both of us have been tight lipped. Don’t file complaints just yet, don’t incite the higher ups… just yet. From our understanding, they know nothing, a body was piled up a year ago. Don’t trigger higher ups…that’s how I felt. This family member was too complex that, just throw them into the psych ward and then spread misinformation that the family members will find out months after that they had been there for that long. Over three months later, we started to see em in person.
At the state level, there is a top individual that title that’s similar to a “public editor” to a publication. I guess that word is equivalent to “advocate”? In fact the name was dropped to my mother at a District Office when yet another benefits snafu occurred earlier in the fall.
This family member’s daughter is completely checked out. I’m so pissed off towards her. Yet another fucking emotionally unavailable Millennial whose masquerades as “reserved”.
For me, the only reason I am writing this here, is I am disgusted. As someone whose 1/2 way with similar needs, to see the mental health side completely fall through the cracks, this is why I have written sanitized first-hand accounts of what I have witnessed outside of my own situation, and seeing this as a fellow family member, it’s disgusting. I am afraid of what could happen in the next 2 decades if my supports I have now disappear and I get more fourth-rate crap. I cannot wait to open up about figuratively load them up and finally get justice when the time comes to properly file complaints and hopefully get a discovery of emails we can say there’s been printouts of so many threads with very few replies or forwards.
What really fucking pisses me off is only when the four letter state agency gets in the news is if there was a sex abuse case. If I polled the public and said being emotionally fucked over would screw the state even more, I’ll tell you that story would lead with much more outrage than Harmony Montgomery or the Sununu YDC any day. Never trust anyone in the press who works entirely in a sterilized environment. They know nuttin!
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