Tying Loose Ends with the Cutie at the Coast

Posted on December 13, 2024 by Clickford, Steven M.

In the post I published before Thanksgiving,,with a follow up over a week ago, there was some loose ends to this story.

TMI

One is I may had published TMI, but I had to wrap this story with so much that was going on. In March of 2023, I was going through long bout of loneliness out there, in October of last year, the third time I visited, I felt there was there-there. As I discovered just recently that of all my years existing, that my brain often on the next destination, so while Portsmouth and base is only an hour or so away, when I was checking out, the plan was to go home or eat before heading back, so my brain was already on the Stubborn/Rigid/Core Bedrock of Personality that is the Interstate 93 Corridor that also includes parts of US Route 3, that at the front desk near Interstate 95, I was creeped out in my brain.

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What’s the Worse Run-in with Admission to Little Expierences?

Posted on July 17, 2022 by Clickford, Steven M.

A job interview or a first date? I had doubted this in a DM on Instagram approx mid winter to a well-known broadcast journalist in re to mental health.

I’d say the latter, because with a job interview there is legal obligations to not judge someone with limited experiences (or let me just say… they can’t say it out loud.

The first date is actually the worse, because they can react, they can basically walk away in midst. Who knows. Since it’s not politically correct to say that women are easily triggered now, they don’t tolerate any type of man anymore. Women want perfection, they can drive themselves, they can be self sufficient financially, etc. They don’t want a mama’s-boy even if the individual wants to break those chains.

Um yeah… just make sure you keep your autism in check, and not say the first date is actually the first, because that would make your pervasive condition even more obvious. The dream-girlfriend figure whose all open and caring is no longer the standard.

Is it Sexist to Ask a Girl Out?

Posted on July 12, 2013 by Clickford, Steven M.

Would someone get charged for a Felony if he asked a girl out that he didn’t really know? Would it be just because he doesn’t “look” like the other guys?
This is a very confusing task for someone like me to do. There is of course the many pseudo-science things like “social capital”, “social pyramid” and the other cautious practices, because you know we can’t assume that everyone with a developmental disability would appear to be “normal” because we have to stereotype them as big, fat ugly young men.
And of course we got both men and women professionals or others that have to be skeptical to protect each others safety, the fear of course of the other person complaining against us!
The problem is there isn’t any positive social skills teaching us how to get young ladies, only because there are many excuses such as its not the paraprofessionals’ responsibility of teaching how to hook up with someone, and more excuses. (and I say this gender specifically since many cases of autism and other DDs are 95% males – and of course I feel ashamed sometimes of being a guy since we are easy targets to get bullied by girls.)
I’ve heard the various ideas of places to meet other people like at the grocery store. Sure that’s a great idea – only if you don’t live in a snobby town and most of the people aren’t walking the carts as couples.
The other theoretical suggestion is well maybe flirt with the cashiers. Which makes me question at what point do you go forward? How do you do small talk (I have difficulties NOT because of my autism, but I was trained settle of socializing with snobby people.) How many weeks or months would you suggest to ask her out? What if I found her Facebook profile and she appears to be a bad girl but she acts nice on the clock? Should I assume that shes taken? (since all good looking girls are taken, good girls are taken and bad girls are not)
The logical response to all of this is to just go on Match or some other dating site since in like 30 years you’d look like you grew up in a sheltered life or that you are very old to remember how people met each other before the Web.
I don’t know because I never had any strong support to do so, only the depressing skepticism and skiddish kinda responses. This is how I tackle it: no one would want to date me, to assume that girl is taken, and assume she’s a badass. I don’t make an ass out of u and me, because 99% of my encounters involve with bitches who can’t control her emotions or has some excuse to dislike me. And 1 and 50 occurrences I deal with the opposite gender, I get some positive reaction. And that 1 and 50 cases happen probably 1 in 3 months.
I am simply confused. Trying to find my next best friend should not have to require being taught from someone with a PhD degree and requiring so much freckin structure.

Dogs

Posted on July 7, 2013 by Clickford, Steven M.

My family doesn’t like dogs. I won’t say they hate them, but they don’t like them. My folks have a strong case of OCD (as well as undiagonsed cases of ASD) and since dogs are dirty and can sometimes be unruly, I have been raised to not really like them.
On my Match.com journey, there are many girls on there who ether have dogs or demand that their date likes dogs. And some of these girls are probably 70% compatible.
Who woulda thunk that “man’s best friend” would be the dealbreaker finding my future best friend? Oh wait, I wasn’t meant to have someone in my life. I was here for my mother and she’ll probably be around till my dying day (gawd willing) since my mother had me young. And I forgot, no “normal” functioning girl wants to date a guy with autism.

The Search for Romance

Posted on November 2, 2012 by Clickford, Steven M.

I’ve heard a billion* different stories of how someone met their love of their life. Ranging from online dating websites, to Facebook (don’t get me started), even old fashioned medium like the ol’ CB** or even meeting the love of their life at the local turnpike toll booth. Or even going to the same restaurant and starting a relationship with the waiter.
*it feels like a billion, whether or not I counted to a billion is another question.
** Citizens Band 2 way radio if you are product from the 1990s onwards and is generally clueless person about things before your time
I can tell you that all my stories about love is something you expect as a 6th grader, and oh boy when people inquire about me crushing on somebody, it often entails embarrassment, regret and other childlike feelings that you expect for a 11 year old.
The only semi sweet story was that “Jessica” lived up the street from me, and the childish love I would endure, only because she treated me like crap weeks after. But nothing ever happened, just plain ol heartbreaks or mixed messages or plain old shutdowns of one and other. I suppose that story is really just stale and depressing.
In anyway, in 2 months the goal is to find the Search for a Career In Turn for a Girl to Like and Respect me as a Mature Man since He Allegedly has Goals for Himself. What a title for that Search huh?

1 in 4 Relationships Occur Online – Really?

Posted on November 1, 2012 by Clickford, Steven M.

Match.com has used an ad blitz in the last year touting that 1 and in 4 relationships start online. I wasn’t able to read the small font size on the chyron in the commercial, but I want to challenge that stat. Match.com is a price gouging entity owned by Barry Diller’s IAC – InterActiveCorp. That same parent company owns the infamous price gouging entities known as Ticketmaster and Livenation. Those two entities would explain why Match.com would want to lure people with their obscenely priced service.

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Message a Girl…Ask for Trouble, part two

Posted on October 15, 2012 by Clickford, Steven M.

Another (possible) date – with no response yet. (I might have to admit my profile might scare people off – well I have to be true and honest why I can’t stand bitches! I don’t regret if I am making females run away from me.)

Sometimes I wished the Government didn’t invent the internet. I’d rather be severely autistic than being a high functioning autistic.

More Broken Hopes with okcupid

Posted on October 10, 2012 by Clickford, Steven M.

I’ve mentioned I live in New Hampshire, the lower part of the state that isn’t the stereotypical area where its not all farms and cows. In fact, I live in the Boston Metro area. Now every follower on this blog, might had their eyeballs fallen out because I live near Boston, in fact put them back in your sockets! Being from New England, the city of Boston is overrated.
Most people can’t stand the out of town yuppies from New York or Berkley owning the City. What really drives me nuts is the city technically has just over 600,000 people, meanwhile the outer areas like Middlesex County, Essex County, the Worcester Hills, the South Coast, some parts of Rhode Island and my area, Southern New Hampshire is the really populated area of well over 4 million people! I’ve been to New York City a lot more than Boston when I was a kid, so I have a different viewpoint. Same applies of going to Southern and Western New England and Upstate New York too. Boston is clearly a city for the out of towners, as the Greater Boston area is metro for the locals instead.
So with the college kids having tight wallets/purses/clutches because they are going for a 6 year study for some lame degree for a useless career, they flood the radius of the match search. I am flooded with these people. I don’t understand why they are so drawn to a city full of panhandlers (or “bums”), a City that has one too many slayings, murders, and sex crimes, a City that is litterly dirty, (and NO I don’t love “That Dirty Water!”), that I can walk in most neighborhoods within an hour and then get bored because I’ve seen everything, a City filled with Modernist buildings that look ugly as hell. Then a city shutting down on odd holidays like “Evacuation Day” (aka Saint Patty’s Day), Patriots Day (Third Monday of April), “Bunker Hill Day” (in June) and another odd holiday for the government workers which I can’t remember. The City shuts down after 8:00pm, and I can’t find the nightlife I see on TV all the time, because well Downtown Boston is always busy after a Bruins or Celtics game in the winter/spring time.
Overrated! Period.
Ok so I digressed, but I think you can understand my point that I’m having difficulties finding people. My other issue is that I don’t want to date someone then screw off back to the Left Coast or some other place leaving me behind. This is why I can’t stand the ADHD twentysomethings, they must have a good process of moving every six months and not be crazy. I moved only 3 times in my lifetime and it drove me nuts just 2 years ago!
Now you know why I am having trouble finding someone who typically is supposed to be “slowing down” at this time of their lives.

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