The Unintended Consequences of Mommy-Blogs (as well as Autism Parent Blogs), Group Think and Allaboutism

Upon research this morning before publication, blurb showed about 4 million blogs are online according to BYU, on parenting.

While I couldn’t find a stat on a Google search on so-called “Autism Parent” blogs, there is no data, but let’s lump them into the parenting blogs, without the toxic sullen, covert narcissism of how their autistic child can’t do any damn thing.

While this may be sketchy on the Google side, I did try to find statistics on teenage blogs or abandoned children, etc., no avail.

Let’s put it this way,  The Hopeless Autistic is one of the few on the Web that is focusing on crictical view of parents from a child, nearly 40 – that has “failed to launch” and narcissism experts like Dr. Ramani Duvasula would put that type as a narcissist, which I think is a bit unfair looking at how so many Generation Z is really struggling to grow up from the militant culture of Gen X, their parents.

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Overprotective Parenting Vs. Reality

Some special needs parents have created unintended consequences due to the idea that their child is so allegedly disabled, that they have a need to “protect” them. Sadly this logic has become more and more false, and it hasn’t been confirmed by experts because they themselves are so arrogant to accept the facts.

The problem is parenting is like special ed, there is no such thing as context, or such things as dials. There is no such thing as dial parenting, move the dial to protect in one case; move it the other direction to not micromanage as much.

Context is everything, in fact the first few posts on this site was actually on this subject of context. Context is everything. Sure your severely autistic child may not be able to be fully independent, but perhaps they may be independent in one or two things; does that mean you should be micromanaging? If there is a benefit of the doubt or enough doubt that your child can be independent, then give them that benefit.

I probably will never have kids so I have really no clue what you people go through; all I can say is psychological-bubble wrapping hurts people with special needs worse. How can I learn things if I’m being talked down to like I’m in elementary school? How can I learn things if my folks do the same things they are teaching me to do? How will I learn? And to use the cliche, what will happen when my mother is no longer around?

And yet I’m not even close to being a genius and I can figure this out…