Masculinity Monday: Picking Apart Male Behaviors, Attitudes, Etc.

On Mondays, I’ll write about various topics about masculinity, the behaviors, and other traits of men or boys.

Waaaayy before male/gender dysmorphia, autism and male were both a dually stigmatizing thing growing up in the early oughts. Not to mention having female feminist teachers who also didn’t like boys or alpha men either. The men who were in middle or high school programs where I attended were emotionally-unavailable.

For so many years being ganged up by women, and teachers with feminists agendas, I was really held hostage for my own belief system. Moreover in the many years in the SPED school system, that I had to be a “nice-guy” and “respect women” by bending over backwards. As a result of this to quote DINO “Dr. Jordan Peterson”, “Nice guys finish last”.

But when I would try to get into the real world, I would run into men (albeit on the tech forums, the “IT Professional” forums or even freckin social media, I would notice this crass men, who often would speak directly and also brag about “cheap” stuff they got on eBay or love to use variants of “good” and just noticing how sick these species known as adult males also known as men can be.

Then we have tomboy types of women, who ride feminism but want to act and have the freedom of men then protect women’s sports. Yeah, I am talking about Kelly, that Kelly. 

Since this blog started, the red pill or the so-called “manosphere” really was a niche and fringe group but when JD Vance started to say wild crap and Elon Musk reposting batshit stuff on X formerly known as Twitter, and from what I have seen online that was on the borderline of fringe, lead to mainstream cringe. This lead me to produce a special series of reports at the minifig TV station a couple winters ago.

To say that it’s hard to be a guy in 2024, a reasonable and kind would be an understatement.

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DSP Awards…(More Politiziation)

In about an hour (checks the Apple Watch), the Direct Support Professional Awards will be held at the State House Lawn. In the past, it would be held somewhere else. But for all those summer lovin’ folks, you’ll be happy, it will probably be in the 70s with abundant sun in downtown Concord.

But I wonder if this is dog-whistles of forced “community based” environment by supporting support professionals literally out in the community? Moreover, are they trying to send a political message to the Governor’s office and/or any General Court lawmaker who could be near the premises?

Pushing people out into the wilderness known as society, in the community – for some people with disabilities is just asking for trouble. For me I have had a record of bad experiences on my own, mind you. I wonder if the organizers are choosing to turn a blind eye to what could be going on with the clients, waiting, waiting, and waiting for their next activity or that some DSPs tend to get free time for errands by having a client tag along with them? Or how some clients are not really allowed to do anything they want, but are “challenged” or “persuaded” to do something different?

I just coincidentally came to age as the system got progressively worse, from the early 1990s to I’d say 2015; it was extremely agressive in a really regressive manner, the trauma of the 3 months in the so-called “traditional day services” was a problem, but seeing the full turnkey to “[fully and all the time being in] Community Based Supports” has been in ingredient for disaster, that no activist group or agency has admitted publicly how bad some of this “implementation” has been. Disability rights has gotten so politicized in the last 15 years. Who benefits? The “adults” in the room who are extremely immature.

What’s the difference between a DSP and someone in show business? Not much, both require massive amounts of ego. And if you’re allergic to ego, well appreciate that you haven’t died yet from all the reckless rhetoric from these people

Why I “Broadcast” Self-Desperation and how people cover their a-es

In September of last year, I reached out to a former day program manager’s personal iPhone number who was at that point considered to be a natural support. That individual ghosted-me and never had contact with me. After leaving a message of the tone described in the video, and a year went by after the two unit police welfare check… I realized what really happened.

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“Community Based Supports” and a Millennial autistic abandoned by said “Community”

I’ve beaten up the lies and bullshit of Community Based Supports for the longest time for people who age out of SPED and land into the adult services world and how SPED is more stereotypically a welfare state than services with the “Medicaid” name.

What the hell is a “community”? How much should “family” be as a support system? Is the “community” inclusive or exclusive and private and isolated? The hell does it really mean practically?

The Blue App kills communities!

The inability to network IRL, to get a job, to meet new people was put on a heavy burden, but then I realized while I was being gaslit, defamed and often slandered in “confidential” documents, by hack rich white folks, like that fucking DINO, I realized the hard way, it was the “community” that failed. Continue reading

Men Scare Me… Part Six

Jordan Peterson recently had a discussion on narcissism with Generation Z (also known as iGen), sometimes referred to the Millennial Generation as well. The episode interviews an expert on this generation and the narcissistic outcomes that social media brought…

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How to Escape from a State of Narcissism

What to do if you live in a state of narcissism? Not moment of a level of it, but one of the fifty U.S. States? I suspect there is over a million people in New Hampshire that have minor or significant fingerprints of NPD. Despite what you hear from Free Staters, this state is not “free” for all. “Freedom” apparently these days lack responsibility and accountability… this wasn’t always the case back 30 something years ago in this state. We have a government, we have other institutions, and they are so authoritative, that it defeats the purpose of freedom or even conservatism. Often these people are unelected, or shouldn’t be. The Town Council where I live is so damn authoritative, they think they are Congress or something like that.

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The Log: *The* Issue with the Day Program (12-16-2019)

This was actually based off a 2019 post about management. And the same day where I trashed many of my Facebook-friends, by blocking them and their S.O.’s profiles

Short Narrative: Conflicts resulting from an email from the previous week

Long form:

Attempted to begin to work on the newsletter, Aly mentioned that “Jackass” would come in at 9:30 to discuss the email. I started to make remarks where I defended the reasoning of the email, and Aly was cutting me off (i.e. not listening), I started to get loud, and Aly responded that “I do not appreciate degrading emails”. Aly refused to listen to how I felt being not heard and felt like “the only adult in the room” last week being attacked.

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