earlier this morning, I made my rounds to check in with my mother downstairs as she’s marking nearly 4 years of Working from Home. Checking in to verify if we were going to do the lunchtime errands.
Then she just stared at me with some strange sympathetic. or some long face.
I think I asked if she was OK and said she didn’t have breakfast yet.
(she never has good breakfast anyways.)
I told her as a matter-of-a-fact I was going back to my bedroom and start with my work.
I sometimes feel with unhealthy co-dependent relationships is for a third-person (that’s me) to be exposed to other people’s trauma and being trapped into forced-empathy…. only because I am different.
This is why men need to ejaculate responsibly, and women to be a bit more careful when deciding to keep the baby to live.
And yet older people are blaming the younger generation for them choosing to be socially rigid, never the emotionally demented or unavailable parents.
In recent years, i have severed ties with any of my friends of my schools I went to. they were all special needs, almost all of them on some form of the autism disorders, some were Down’s. The reason why I had to was the following
Now, I must be an oxymoron because I feel like I been looked down by the upper middle class, but this case is different. The reasons I just explained would make someone like me “weaker” than them. Now an argument could be made, well they might perceive me as a “normal” guy; but that’s pressuring to deal with that perception. I also had problems on Facebook with some of these people befriending people they didn’t know on my other side of the “normal” social circle of mine – of which put my reputation at risk.
It was hard to do, but I don’t hold any regrets. These people held me back instead of moving forward. For me to try to at least have a fair shot, this was the best option. I don’t hold any regrets.
If you are an early adopter to this blog back in August of last year, I’ve mentioned about the thought of “unhealthy relationships.”
I was in a special ed high school in Massachusetts, and the health lessons I learned, were not about physical – it was the psychological side of relationships. Some people believe psychological is junk science, and I tend to agree. I find psychology (often I say psych-o-logy) more like software for the human brain, but unlike technology, the real beauty is really hardware (physical.)
Psychology is not logical, and the only issues with that regard is “in the head”. Most often psychologists or people studying psychology never get taught any sorts of physical, or studying something about the human body.
As you will find out over time, I’ll be discussing all about the “virtual” side about relationships, since that was mostly taught outside of the home.
So today let’s talk about what is called “Unhealthy Relationships”
It basically means (according to the “experts”) there are issues with two people, in this example I’ll use a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Issues such as depression, lack of common interests, “esteem” issues or what.
Crushes can allegedly fit into this category.
I don’t remember the full details, as we were reading off a textbook and at that time I couldn’t understand or grasp such an abstract thought process. The textbook (which probably was PC, never mentioned about abuse, like physical, verbal or anything severe.) Also my hack teacher used film (i.e. the single season of Freaks & Geeks) as a dialogue to decipher the unhealthy relationships with the characters on that television program.
I’ve done additional research prior to writing this post, and I was under taught about that subject, and I’ve learned that “Unhealthy Relationships” is a serious manner, of such it can get pretty nasty, like sexual abuse, verbal abuse or even controlling one of another. In the latter link, they describe communication is a key to a healthy relationship.
I’m quite surprised that I got the childlike answer and not the dark description.
To this day I still try to remember what junk science I learned and never could apply other than I still can’t get how I was conflicted with trying to understand relationships with a teacher that never second-guessed her approach of teaching, like her taking away my rights to have love or romantic relationships other than I didn’t have a label other than Asperger Syndrome.
Supposedly the “experts” have believed people with PDD-NOS or a borderline functioning disorder had no hopes for a brighter future. They never thought, that their beliefs would backfire with the power of the World Wide Web and a blogger spending most of his time proving these educated academia types wrong with limited success.
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