Avoid is such a “favorite” word of mine, I like to attribute that hatred to people like the Ed Brouders of the world and other Propaganda Artists at the local police departments masquerading as “Public Information Officers” who order to media outlets to “avoid [a road]” instead of leaving the driver clueless and helpless to figure out an alternative route. Or my favorite one on NHDOT signage is “Expect Delays” – when and how long?
In fact I think that’s why New Hampshire is a dumpster fire, all the damaged children and adult females allow their trauma to replay, and as a result they threw it away and it makes this state stink so badly. I hate my state’s media because it always ties back to the Timesaving New Hampshire Traffic hits of “avoiding Route 3” without any way of learning how to get around it without telling you, because you should know anyways.
If you are familiar with domestic local media, Shadow Broadcast Services, better known as Shadow Traffic never used such language structures like the former WZID traffic hack. Their traffic reporters always gave you the alternative like holding ones hands without being so authoritative (again Brouder comes to mind YET again.) In recent years stations that used to use Shadow worked in-house at various media outlets around the country. one was New York’s WCBS 880 and their traffic reports in house till the format’s death on August 23rd would use phrase “I’d use the Holland instead” or “better off with using the Triborough” while media outlets closer to home will just say whatever social media feed tells them to repeat, and does WZID still have cell number for reporting traffic? I don’t think so.
While Shadow was “totaled” by iHeart Media’s really lame Total Traffic (get the pun), I still live on the Shadow way of traffic reporting.
But New Hampshire in general with this hyper-authoritative culture, I think is the reason why people are “stuck”, if Life is like a Highway…what happens if you get into a slowdown? How do you know the alternative, is there an alternative? Why are so many women taught to “avoid” issues? This metaphor is really relevant in my life than ever before.
My mother has gone through so much turbulence in her life and it’s coming to creep in on her. Her child (that’s a-me) is helpless, trying to do everything I can without being an asshole. She has gone through a death on her own, and she’s just relying on web and social media posts to get through it via a parasocial connection to a stranger that appears to be an “individual” like her. She refused help with the hospice care, and in August I went to ask help that basically made them uncomfortable and I went with a no-contact going fwd.
Ironically in recent weeks she brought up a one-time situation where therapist was falling asleep during a session. Then my mother got into the pissy/mama-bear/protective self when we went to Portsmouth in 2009 to find a new psychologist and he fell asleep. I didn’t get angry like her, because I had a lot going on, and for her maybe it was repeated trauma. I have suggested to her multiple times to seek help; but if she’s repeating the same memory that could go as far back as the start of the new century, or even in the last one, well she needs to hit the mental F5 in her brain to get a “refresh” of new data, that not all mental health professionals are like that one.
She continues to mix up ideation as an actual plan, lots of overt self-talk (i.e. “saying thought bubbles out loud” I characterize) as she continues to kick the can down the road.
As I have been repeated multiple times the troubles follow you. But ironically when the preacher doesn’t realize that said preaching is happening to them…
I am getting burnt out of her fragile sense of self, “confused” and then I can’t use that word either, because some vague double-standards I am supposed to have my shit together and always be expected to have a clear mind.
My mother at a certain age has made it a subconscious decision to treat her trauma like it’s hot ashes she thinks she can throw it away. It’s only time when someone knows that’s not a right idea. In fact I think that’s why New Hampshire is a dumpster fire, all the damaged children and adult females allow their trauma to replay, and as a result they threw it away and it makes this state stink so badly. I hate my state’s media because it always ties back to the Timesaving New Hampshire Traffic hits of “avoiding Route 3” without any way of learning how to get around it without telling you, because you should know anyways.
No wonder why everyone feels screwed up.