This sticky subject is really one controversial one. I wonder if there is a theory of mind that people are not open to talking about…
The Theory of the Mind to Self Love
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Category Archives: 2022: #OutspokenAutistic (April ’22 – Present)
PR Issues
The “self advocacy” world needs some training on PR… you know public relations.
Late in October, there was inklings that the Family Support Conference was going to be the next block where I was staying on the first weekend in November.
Validation is a Heluva Drug!
To my mother to whom I’ve come to my senses, lost her to an addiction to “validation” and how powerful this emotional controlled substance can do to someone.
Why I cannot Trust Any New Hampshire Professionals…(Executive Director, ABLENH)
I really hate white collared hacks in this state. They care more about their aspirations than anyone else. Why can I say this state is narcissistic? I’d be bullshitting you!
[…] when the Merrimack Police Department came to my house on that September day, was a middle finger through proxy. It’s not the officer’s fault. It was someone who felt his career was on the line, when this plea had nothing to do with school, or his previous line of work, but he was so obsessed about his 10 year plans. […]
8 Years and a Week Later – The Ring Leader of ASD in the Granite State Left Us…
As I mentioned before, the horrible person who intentionally scared Granite Staters (as well as Massholes, and the rest of North America) passed away on New Year’s 2017.
I still have no respect for the woman who hated autistic boys as I suspected not only a few years before became a board cert ABA, but i wondered if she was an anti-vaxxer too. Her upper end of clients also included the Middlesex County elite who having an autistic child would’ve broken their ego. Throw in ABA treatment and the parent’s ego won’t be as fractured. On the lower end, well I was reminded I was not- enough, and the only way to fit in was to take prescription meds for fake issues, because the typical peers did illegal drugs. I had to “mask” my social economic “status”, one of the many disregards, gaslighting that Bolick was notorious of doing.
lBut what wasn’t surprising is how much her legacy has seeped into a few thousand people, there’s more feminist ABA professionals, more boy hating teachers, and thankfully less people who don’t weaponize suicide the way Bolick did, because it was people like her who said “autism and depression are separate” . Knowing later on that they do strangely go hand in hand, and because she was taught in the 1970s, she preached it well into the new millennia, but did she ever re-take a study to learn new facts? Of course not.
I am a recovering victim of her narcissistic tendencies of a professional that refused to grow and a subject worth learning wasn’t respected (that is me.) because abuse from people allegedly with NPD is so low, because no one will admit now – or at least in the near future, the level of suffering with imposter syndrome and nuanced based social skills is far from developed. As people say “you have to make it” for the adult population.
I never want to express so much hate, but I knew after my 30th birthday (my family waited as the news broke around February school vacation, that corrupt professional liked to keep her personal life so air tight… the irony!) that my group would still be haunted by Teresa Bolick from 6 million feet down under from hell as her afterlife did get exposed to thousands of other women who lust for power and control using autistic boys as to emasculate (and maybe giving some of these younger boys into trans, even though I don’t believe that’s a causation.)
This blog isn’t about everything on autism, but a subject on antiquated practices from a legacy, pre DSM-V autistic looking in. The systems were intentionally broken with no intention for it to ever be repaired.
Let that sink is as I am closer to 40 with a life experience of a 21 year iold
Back to Reality When There’s Atrocity
Happy New Year, and a somber one for those in the Big Easy.
With those developments in the last couple of days, 2025 is starting off a bit rocky and it’s a bit concerning. There is some late breaking developments after the Eat The Press rant. The man who died from the explosion of the Cybertruck near the Trump Hotel in Las Vegas was from an apparent suicide. It’s believed that the man was so desperate he went as far from Denver to harm himself over what had occurred in New Orleans that was an apparent terrorist attack.
Flashback: Happy 2024 – #LiveFreeOrSelfDelete
Almost a year ago on the day after Christmas, I was reflecting on what would be happening a year from then.
I was right, I didn’t know how bad it was going to be, between the Bedford Bimbo being platformed to MAHA, to just the unknowns now we know for sure anti vaxxers, anti disability, anti science, anti-atypical people are now dominating policy.
I was just four years off on being permanently “hopeless”.
If you don’t hear from me, Merry Christmas for those who celebrate.
Thirty and Twenty Five Years After/The Year That Was Related to ASD
Twenty five years ago, in late 1999, the latter days of the 20th century, I was told the bad news that would change me forever. For most higher functioning autistics (HFA is not used because it’s not a clinical word) they have validation, By fifth grade, I knew I was somewhat different, but as I had the middle school hell that lead into the curse of being Out of Districted, mixed with a toxic/feminist ideals of male students, then I could never really recover because it was years later, years after denying I was really autistic (of which ended five years ago to the day) I felt being so delegitimized that I could never recover.
It was said in recent years by my mother that she had pushed off diagnosis because she was concerned that I’d be defined by “the label” Well I wonder now if FOB had said that to me in 1999 in preparations that the teachers would weaponize my label against me as if I chose to be odd, almost guilt-towards-compliance attitude. In case you forgot my original diagnosis was formally done when I was 7 which was 30 years ago this year, but it was told to me five years later.
I never really recovered to pre early 1999 levels of confidence and self worth. I say “early 1999”, because i have not told the story until five years ago because the women forgot childhood time perception. There was lots of social growth from I say March to June of that year, that clearly wasn’t seen or understood. I do not understand how people with a responsive soul would treat little boys as if they can’t be anything useful. Not to mention that I had pre-ABA treatment that was implemented really poorly and behavior analytics is not good for a program that is supposed to be for individuals.
Sadly for New Hampshire, I don’t think this has changed that much. But don’t expect Dan Habib to produce a serious film on restraint and seclusion.
The Unintended Consequences of Mommy-Blogs (as well as Autism Parent Blogs), Group Think and Allaboutism
Upon research this morning before publication, blurb showed about 4 million blogs are online according to BYU, on parenting.
While I couldn’t find a stat on a Google search on so-called “Autism Parent” blogs, there is no data, but let’s lump them into the parenting blogs, without the toxic sullen, covert narcissism of how their autistic child can’t do any damn thing.
While this may be sketchy on the Google side, I did try to find statistics on teenage blogs or abandoned children, etc., no avail.
Let’s put it this way, The Hopeless Autistic is one of the few on the Web that is focusing on crictical view of parents from a child, nearly 40 – that has “failed to launch” and narcissism experts like Dr. Ramani Duvasula would put that type as a narcissist, which I think is a bit unfair looking at how so many Generation Z is really struggling to grow up from the militant culture of Gen X, their parents.
How People Autism/Spectrum Disorder Has Been Continuously Devalued by the Typical Population
Editorial Note: The title has “Autism/Spectrum Disorder” because I use it interchangeably since many just use “Autism” instead these days
Gonna miss those hated Boomers when they pass on.
The younger generation (when I say “young” I say under 55. The prospects are not looking good for typical minded people as I fear they don’t want me to exist.
Gen X (the alleged Forgotten Generation) 1965-1981
Generation X was coined because they weren’t sure how to name the thirteenth generation. Struggled during the 1970s under inflationary pressures, mixed in with no-fault divorce, and other turbulent times, Xers became adults at 12, and kept to themselves into the 80s and 90s. They loved Ronald Regan’s pro-growth economic agenda (that gave everyone Black Monday, the dot-com bubble and the 2008 Financial Crisis.
Gen X was also the generation where their offsprings were cursed with a vaccine injury known as Autism. Most of this population are in the Gen Z group. Ironically no one really talks about anyone injured with a vaccine in the 1980s babies. Regardless Gen X’s favorite film Rain Man, mixed in with their technical training on the IBM 5150 in high school, these hopeless people thought they didn’t need no stinkin education, it’s all on Google. Xers listened to their sisters like Jenny McCarthy and believed their kids autism was caused by vaccines Continue reading