Despite the antiquated “label”, I once had a high school friend, the one I had put in the 2012 Tell All for A Puzzling View who I identified as “2021”, it was part of an old handle of his AIM account. That individual has the Asperger’s side of the spectrum. He was a typical-male type. He even admitted this was his ol SOP, but when I was in last contact more than a decade ago, I noticed he would get along to get along and do anything to fit in.

While I do not endorse asskissing indiscriminately; I don’t see it as a problem if you’re trying to get positive attention, such as gaining social capital. You have to play nice to be nice. Ensure you’re not going over a line and that line you know not to cross.

Regardless, I’ve learned even if I was truly nice, to get along, and that even being a bit assertive, I’ve learned the hard way that being a bit assertive for me a slightly aggressive. I can never seem to find that healthy balance.

But again I am a mute-and-dumb person and I am not supposed to be asking for more in life; I am supposed to just be bullied and not try to be extra nice, to have outcomes in life. I can never seem to win…