Why Aren’t People Falling in Love (romantically) with the Autistic Population?

I wrote a post back in February of last year about why autistic people don’t fall in love. This particular post has been one of the most searched and read posts on the web since this was published on Valentine’s Day of last year. There are people out there wondering if they can fall in love or not.
Well I don’t have that clear answer for that. Some do fall in love and some do not. It varies by their dis/abilities. Someone with Asperger Syndrome may be able to have some relationship and can vary to someone with a form of PDD that can’t stand girls.
I do have one possible answer, it has to do with society. Society has been trained that anyone with special needs should not be able to pursue love.  Another issue is the potential emotional  effects between the one with the disorder and the other with or without the similar disorder.  Another problem is that many people who are nurses, special education teachers or para-professionals have self esteem problems themselves, that they don’t want to deal with such baggage off the clock.
And also if one is living in the Suburbia or grew up in the suburbs doesn’t help them – it sure made me worse for sure! Ultra rich towns have been frowned upon the progress of special needs mostly in the autism side, since that’s a “hidden disability.” Since many are able to walk or don’t need physical assistance, they aren’t aware about the internal disorder or disease or disability.
For my case, I do feel afraid of romance due to the excessive teasing and picking on when I was younger and girl crazy. I had so many “crushes” that you could call me a slut. However, after that, I would start to feel ashamed if I liked someone. Love is a real complicated and complex issue that I still can’t understand to this day.
So in closing, I have no real answer why people can’t fall in love with autistics or people with autism.

Why Aren’t People Falling in Love (romantically) with the Autistic Population?

I wrote a post back in February of last year about why autistic people don’t fall in love. This particular post has been one of the most searched and read posts on the web since this was published on Valentine’s Day of last year. There are people out there wondering if they can fall in love or not.
Well I don’t have that clear answer for that. Some do fall in love and some do not. It varies by their dis/abilities. Someone with Asperger Syndrome may be able to have some relationship and can vary to someone with a form of PDD that can’t stand girls.
I do have one possible answer, it has to do with society. Society has been trained that anyone with special needs should not be able to pursue love.  Another issue is the potential emotional  effects between the one with the disorder and the other with or without the similar disorder.  Another problem is that many people who are nurses, special education teachers or para-professionals have self esteem problems themselves, that they don’t want to deal with such baggage off the clock.
And also if one is living in the Suburbia or grew up in the suburbs doesn’t help them – it sure made me worse for sure! Ultra rich towns have been frowned upon the progress of special needs mostly in the autism side, since that’s a “hidden disability.” Since many are able to walk or don’t need physical assistance, they aren’t aware about the internal disorder or disease or disability.
For my case, I do feel afraid of romance due to the excessive teasing and picking on when I was younger and girl crazy. I had so many “crushes” that you could call me a slut. However, after that, I would start to feel ashamed if I liked someone. Love is a real complicated and complex issue that I still can’t understand to this day.
So in closing, I have no real answer why people can’t fall in love with autistics or people with autism.

Online Dating – OK for “Normal” scared girls – NOT OK for ANYONE with ASD.

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People asked me in the past why do I not use online dating services. Well its because a whole slew of reasons, mostly because of girls being bitches.
I can’t keep track of how many times I have been on many online dating services. Every occurance, was to “just look” because paying $150+ for a contract with limited odds of finding someone online was thin right from the start.
This was around 2007 – 2008.
I’ve tried Match.com (the biggest rapists of a customer’s dollar), Zoosk (not as wasteful, but never subscribed) to OkCupid. OkCupid has been recently bought out by Match.com, Barry Diller’s InterActive Corp, which scored obsecene profits in the quarter of Valentines Day, though its still the same. (at least in the near future.)
The problem with OkCupid (even if you pay a little extra for additional stalking features and no messaging limits) is the users are pretty skeptical. Do I need to say what gender? Yes, you guessed right, Women, females, the ones that had been allegedly abused before.
I’ve been on OkCupid for about a month in the current carnation (I had an account late last year), but since I tried and tried, its these damned girls that ruin it for EVERYONE.
I did a lookup of a reversed matches of guys. Now on OkCupid, they have a multi light status of how often they reply to messages. Red means very selectively, yellow means they reply selectively and green means they reply often. Now every guy i found in my area was all green across the board. When you find females its all mixed, and in some cases (depending on their default picture if its pinned up – sorry for being sexist) they have a red light status.
Now why in the hell is females always so scared of guys. Where are the females that take advantage of guys? THERE is a decent number, but since the 60s came along and we were suffered with the Gloria Steinem types and girls being girls, and women doing whatever the hell please, NO one EVER wants to CALL them OUT! I am OFFENDED by the “feminism” movement because its fucking reversed-sexism!
And of course, since I have a goddamned developmental disorder, that is shunned thanks to the liberals that have MADE US QUOTE ON QUOTE  “DISABLED”, it puts even a deeper risk for the women!
Don’t get me started of being afraid that a girl will think I am a “looser” because I live with my mother and presently don’t work and I don’t drive. Jeez, whose the real “open minded” people on these damned dating service? Me!
And the other thing they work in “special education helping people with autism” or they work as an ABA. Yup, I can’t touch those people with a 10 foot pole, not that I am in school anymore, its because why in the hell would they want to come home to a disabled person since they do it for a day job.
Yup people ask me why I don’t do this stuff – its because its the bitches on these damned dating sites!
This is the many reasons why I just want to hate instead of being loving. The WOMEN are ruining society!
It would be so fucking awesome if a few would be taken off the planet! The world doesn’t need another bitch on the planet!
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“Love shyness” and the Elephant in the Room

2023 Note: In 2012, the world was more innocent than a decade later. “Love-shyness” is actually a major part of the “Manosphere” and the incel community,  Brian Gilmartin’s work is cited in the alpha vs. beta male description. There had been opinions that his work was fringe, and he was forced to go to Montana, and try to use the remaining credibility. Over a decade after writing this, I look at this that love-shyness from the originalist perspective (at that time 35 years ago) was people who were afraid of love, was on burnout much like the original intentions of the Incel USENET group. But when the incel and manosphere community started to take off by 2017, it was on anger, and attack on the other-side. MGTOWS and PUAs are extremely dangerous to the society and “love-shyness” as merged in part of the incel culture – the indiscriminate hate to women. Boy have some of my words gone moldy since…I hope men who have been extremely hurt and only anger is the PUA and MGTOW can take back the “Incel” name and make what it used to be


The most searched phrases in my search metrics, continues to be the whole theme can someone with autism fall in love, why autistic people can’t love, etc, etc.
I appreciate you people searching for that subject, because I still don’t have any ideas ether. It doesn’t help when the liberal elitists that knows it all when it comes to ASD and to the HFA population, because they don’t know everything because they create politics and ideals of what the population should be so the population gets screwed horribly.
Today, the focus will be on a subject known as  “Love shyness.” It’s coined by Brian G. Gilmartin who wrote a book in 1987 and had “estimated that love-shyness afflicts approximately 1.5% of American males and will prevent about 1.7 million U.S. males from ever marrying or experiencing intimate sexual contact with women“*
*From a Wikipedia article entitled “Love-shyness” referenced in a cautious manner.
From the same source, he stated with his data collection various factors, such as temperament, history of being bullied, that the “love-shy’s life” had grown up in dysfunctional families, etc.  Another striking fact was the

“men reported that their parents and societal attitudes pressured them into being “real boys” because of the men’s personalities as children. “

So here goes that “man-child” stereotype the rich bitches won’t want to touch with a 10 foot pole.
Also the social economic factor is shocking that

“As a result, all of the love-shy men were in the lower middle class or lower.”

My spin on that would be a “love-shyness” is probably a lot worse if one came up as a lower middle class and growing up in the Suburbia where a lot of girls are overprotected by their rich conservative leaning daddys. Hey, that’s worth shot I suppose.
After this book was originally published in the late 80s, he had confirmed that some of the cases may had been considered to be autistic or dare I say Asperger Syndrome. He had also responded to an email years after the publication that about 40% of the severely love-shy men would have AS or ADHD. And of course he probably at the time was ignorant about the high functioning cases of ASD or people who had severe cases of autism to be upgraded to a functioning equivalent of their peers.
Another piece would be is:

” He says in his book ‘Shyness is never ‘good’. Shyness obviates free choice and self-determination, and it stands squarely in the way of responsible self-control and self-management.’ Again, he states ‘Simply put, shyness is never healthy.'”

Well then try to educate the union thugs at the local liberal SPED programs in the public school system.
The takeaway is that “love-shyness”, however you want to slice and dice it, can be in some regards synthetic thanks to the excessive laws the Feds and state and local governments put into the special education classrooms. Oh, don’t get me started with the overzealous sexual harassment classes (where I don’t even think the mainstream classes even teach to begin with)  and how the Hacks basically frame us as freaks and creeps and who else knows what kills our self esteem.
Not dismissing love-shyness, but some of this is made up thanks to the ever so complicated issue of high functioning autism and the blur between the evil side of Asperger’s and the HFAs who struggle in life and again the upbringing in the classroom and the unions and liberals POV of what the ASD community needs to be.
The unions and the public schools can really do us a favor if they can get laid off and deregulate the special ed system so people won’t have to go through what I went through becoming a synthetic hopeless romantic.
However, this is one’s own opinion. I can’t speak for the rest of the population. This may just be pure emotion and not thinking rationally. I think the politics of autism or whatever social disorder has gotten way out of hand, and instead of preaching on “love-shyness”, maybe there should be less liberals teaching social skills for a change.