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I find the “father figure” is becoming a dying breed. I think its even endangered at this point.
That’s pretty dangerous if you ask me.
As you already know I have been raised without my father for almost my entire life. As time has gone on, I’ve started to realize what the powerful role of a father is supposed to be.
Fathers are supposed to be reassuring to the mother, by not over protecting her son.
Fathers are supposed to be there for the hard times, and to reassure the family (or individuals) that things will be Ok. The father has to protect, (or even over) protect their daughter. Typically if a daughter isn’t raised by her father, the mother, wouldn’t be overprotecting her. The theories of early puberty and over maturity can attribute to the lack of a father in her life.
Fathers are supposed to have some level of authority as well.
Now I really feel that the times have gone so modern that the father has no role for his family. Fathers aren’t getting their hands dirty like changing diapers, (no pun intended) or getting down on the floor and building Lego with the son or attending a tea party in the daughter’s bedroom, or advocating for their children during budget season when their special needs children are going to fall into the cracks in coming months or years. This role has been a motherly monopoly and the fact that its all “motherly” (like excessive emotions) makes it even worse in my opinion.
The logic of the father being the bread winner is I think outdated. In recent years in the Great Recession Depression after 2008, most career causalities were the Midtown Big Banks, and mostly those were white collared and mostly a male workforce. And many of those were unemployed right in the midst of the what I call is the Great Depression. But we as a society still are sexist, because even if there is more working women, we still look down at them, and not look up to men in a different standard.
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Back a couple months ago, there was murder in New York City, 2 children died, I believe they were both 2 year olds, the cause I don’t know, because there has been a few to none follow up stories. The NYPD had questioned the various parties, and again I don’t know the details since. The parents of those two murdered children appeared to be executives and was raised by a nanny. The father recently gotten a job running the digital operations at the New Jersey based business channel, CNBC.
This job wasn’t a simple webmaster or building apps for the iPhone/iPad, but more of an executive commuting to various places and monitoring Excel spreadsheets, since this man came from Discovery Communications. I do not know anything about the mother. CNBC.com featured a 1 minute video memo on their website (see link above), after this horrific episode of crime, with the managing editor giving his condolences.
Since this has happened a couple months ago, I feel there should be a discussion about the right to have children of all classes. We typically think teenage girls to early twentysomething girls or ones that live on welfare to get bennies; but we never look at the higher class, net worth types (like this CNBC executive)  and whether or not they should have the right to have children.
Don’t get me wrong, I live in America and we should have freedom to choose, but that comes with responsibilities! If you are a desperate 20 year old to someone who is climbing the corporate ladder, you need to think twice if you want to have children. Sorry, its my straight up opinion! Having a child is a lot of responsibility, and you can’t just knock up a girl or woman and then screw her after the child is born. That logic is the same if you have a child, then see them only on weekends or twice a day. You are doing you child – your family a disservice! 
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A while back, Johnson & Johnson had ran an ad campaign showing proverbial memories of parent and child and the commercial ended with the following tagline.
Having a baby changes everything.
When you reflect on that campaign, it wasn’t targeting any age bracket or what. The fact is, no matter how old you are, a baby changes your life, and your family and puts added responsibilities.
There is a growing issue in America, the lack of being a responsible and accountable citizen to society. We’ve seen this statement being repeated over and over in this past year alone. And unfortunately its men whether he’s a street loaner, to a white collared executive, the commonality is we are becoming a fatherless society. We as a society should be ashamed and we should start to ask some serious questions like are parents really committed to have children, are we really going to stay together for the long run, and not stay married for the children’s sake or am I going to be responsible for my child’s welfare?
I think that is some starting points for an open and larger discussion of the role of parents, mostly on the father.
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