Category Archives: A Puzzling View on Relationships (2011-2014)

A Puzzling View on Relationships existed on WordPress from 2012 to 2014. The concept was based on search results from An Alleged Autistic “can autistics fall in love”, etc. Back when Google and WordPress could give you those results. Posts from 2011 to August 2012 came from An Alleged Autistic first, since A Puzzling View went live in September of that year.

The $cam Known as Valentine’$ Day

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I noticed right after Christmas, the retail shops started to move the displays of the Christmas goods, after some places had Christmas stuff right after Labor Day, and concurrently selling Christmas stuff along with the Halloween decor and candies.

So what was replaced?

Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day is the worst marketing I find more obscene than Christmas. It’s not a holiday per se, but it is a marketing machine that should make the Catholics upset.
And part of that is just the idea what defines “romance” what defines “love”.

  • Is it candy?
  • Is it cards?
  • Is it just simple admiration?
  • Should I give cards out to my family members?
  • Is it to do with solely on sexual intercourse?
  • Is having crush love?
  • Do we define girlfriend/boyfriend relationships based on the click of the mouse on their Relationship Status on a social networking website?

What is it?

I don’t know.

I do know that in the recent years, Valentine’s Day has accelerated out of control, and the definition has of course been redefined to a non-standard definition.

I will throw some rocks at Victoria’s Secret, Limited Brands, their parent company should be reporting some obscenely high profits when that quarter closes, and Barry Diller’s Match.com (which now touts only 1 and 5 relationships start on the Net) will report another obscene growth (since after all it costs nearly $200 for a subscription all paid in full on a one time bill) and he will never spin off the property, even if the site is well independently financed.
In no means, am I defending any means of welfare, or equality – but as someone who has been unemployed or underemployed, and someone who grew up by a single parent living in a privileged town where he himself wasn’t privileged, it just makes it difficult to find someone that understands my situation.

I do know Love can be a scam, and unfortunately it isn’t illegal by Federal Law to sell goods relating to  love or romance, as per to any regulatory authorities like the F.T.C., S.E.C. or the F.B.I. except you can’t do prostitution.

Wait? Isn’t whoring products about love considered in some degree “prostitution”? Then how come Limited Brands or Victoria’s Secret not getting any Federal investigation? The messaging seems to be clear, they sell underwear just so someone can fuck another – that I find illegal?

I find it illegal that Victoria’s Secret uses modeling agencies (aka subcontracting) that employs models that aren’t even American. Where’s the Feds on that?

I digress

I do find it technically illegal to be legally sell anything to do with romance or love. If only were I a prosecutor, would I love to legally  destroy companies that have destroyed society.

Suck that Alessandra Ambrosio and Mrs. Tom Brady!

Again I digress.

I just hate romance and every freckin Valentine’s Day since like 2003, its just salt in my wounds. I love bitching about this at this time every year to shut up all the slutty defenders of such day.
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Love is like an Allergy

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There is little cure to allergies.
Its like you are allergic to nuts. As much as you want to be like everyone else to enjoy eating nuts without worrying about dying, you can’t have it.
That is the same to love.
My allergic reaction is I cry and melt down to tears.
Love is a known allergy to me. I call it a “neurological allergy”  Given my autism, and my miswired brain, I have a hard time understanding it. And who the hell is out there (other than an autistic girl – which are extremely rare forms of humans in this subculture)  that would want to fall in love with me?
I can’t think of any. I hear crickets.
The leadership (aka the ones who scare these people to death) doesn’t help.
I’ve never been kissed nor do I really care at this point.
But going back to the allergy part, is you have to accept your differences and lower your expectations. Like I said, I’m essentially an android that has an native app in my BootROM that can have emotions while everyone else can be heartless, careless, hateful and not be fully tolerant.
Love is a sin
Love is blind  – and its indecent
Love should be private
Love is greedy
Love is for selfish people
Love takes away of all the other things you and other people used to love.
Love is just a 4 letter word that the Federal Communications Commission should prohibit on the public airwaves of radio, over the air TV and on pay cable networks.
Its a joke!
 

Friends – the WRONG WAY to seek new people

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The world is so perverted it makes me cry.

I feel that I do not have any futures other than working my ass off and getting money (if there is still an economy.)
The reason why I don’t have more than a few friends, is because I suffer with a developmental disability that’s messed up my brain on the inside. And for that, it has disabled my rights to have a decent expectations of life.

Meanwhile, I had seen video on YouTube on tricks from how to tell if a guy likes you, to how to tell you if a shy guy likes you to even how to talk to one and get a number and text. Like I have said before it is wrong, illegal in social standards, and is considered inappropriate to begin with, according to the experts of the autism world, who happen to be women, a gender that often give conservative guidance, avoids risks and are generally a skeptical group of people. Not so in the series of videos:

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FES_b0coXFQ

these were just a sample of what I had seen the last day or so.
Going back to my original point, I am not just talking about getting a  girl/friend, I am just saying how CAN I talk to a “stranger” and talk to them on the phone or SMS, or whathaveyou.
I can’t.

I have to be in the shallow level, do things the 18th Century way of using my existing small pool of existing relationships for them to network, because afterall I’m allegedly dumb (at least in the social department), so therefore kiss the idea of networking goodbye!
I can’t believe people can befriend strangers on websites like Facebook and in some cases become “acquaintances”, friends, close friends to a romantic partner, and maybe to marriage.
I just don’t get it.
This world of packet based communications, the web browser opening a window to the world, and all these great “innovations” (I put it in quotes because its bullshit) are really great for the “normal” people out there. But if you have any legal disability that is outside of physical, I’d suggest you sue your “doctor” for slander. Because having Autism destroys your reputation, your relationships, your future hopes goodbye.

That’s why I chose to be a corporate hustler, by forcing myself to get a job (likely in a big company) and work and work and work and work my tail off to please to the corporate execs, since afterall that’s my only talent I am putting to use for this year.
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Catfish

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Has anyone seen the TV series Catfish on MTV?
I channel surfed the other night can ran into that program
The show is like a documentary following people who met others online (i.e. a online relationship.) The host meets with the skeptical party member, and goes to search for the other individual, to see if the other end the person is a total fake. The host of the program will start off by looking the profile on the respective website whether its Facebook, MySpace, etc. and if there seems to be a fakeness on the profile, the producers start to look them up elsewheres.
This program meets with the crossroads of To Catch a Predator when they go to meet or ambush the person of interest. Some of these cases were the partner lied about their identity, their location, their looks, in some cases they were cheating with another person.
The last episode I seen had a guy meeting a girl online. This girl, named Melissa who appeared online, billed herself as a pretty blond “Barbie Girl” (in her words) with blond hair and blue eyes, as the skeptical partner found out she was a curvy, brunette with brown eyes and all the other attributes turned out to be opposite. Near the end of the program, the two try to come to terms.
In other episodes, its a teardripper because of the sudden reality that their online relationship was a fluke.
Has anyone else watched this program? I’m going to watch some of these OnDemand, if its on there. Its an interesting program.

Customer Relationship [Mis] Management

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I’ve mentioned before Christmas how cyber entities like Amazon.com are eradicating “box stores” and the humans that work there like a Best Buy or a Barnes & Noble. Sites like Amazon exist because our society are a bunch of freeloaders, wanting things for cheap and these same bunch of brats have no idea what the value of a dollar is. I think that is easier said than done.
Amazon is “cheap” for a number of reasons. They have limited overhead. One is they have a few warehouses, and item coming out of those warehouses go right to the customer as opposed to a box store. Second, is they have limited customer services. Ebay has much better customer service, given how badly managed they have been lately.  Like in the earlier story, I’ve mentioned there is no toll free number, and the emails are “generic” but are manned by an agent sifting through thousands of emails. Customer Relationship Management or CRM is the computer app where these agents look at the email and decide how to solve it by cherry picking a few drill down options and add a sentence or two of a personal message then presses send back to the customer.
Amazon is anonymous in the Seattle region, one of the city’s largest employer.  A Seattle paper wrote a story last year about how all the other big companies in the city like Boeing, Microsoft and others giving money to local charities and reaching out, while Amazon’s employees are forced to be anonymous and work in buildings that are unmarked. The western part of the United States is nothing but mind boggling how there are so many adolescents who think they have the freedom to run a company but hold no accountability.
That same story, the newspaper tried to get in contact with Amazon.com’s public relations, and they got a response back. The response was probably done with their CRM app, because it looked so generic!
I’m not even done with this story!
On Christmas Eve, the eastern part of the US, their side business of providing cloud services for companies like Netflix went out. This was the fourth occurrence in less than a year. NetworkWorld, wrote a story last week comparing their “apology” emails dating to April of 2011 and how there was only a few words that differentiated all of their messages that appeared a generic  CRM reply.
Dealing with retailers that are CRM, even worse contacting via the web, in this case Amazon.com is sobering. You have to deal with rules and e-tailer’s policies and there is no way around it. It’s the childish “rules are rules.” With traditional retailers, they can bend around costs, returns or refunds based on human instinct.
But I live in a free country. The country wants do things for cheap to free, and unfortunately when we want things for free, we give up for other things, like fending for ourselves if we need customer assistance on a messed up order and another childish phrase “dealing with it” just like how they responded to the cloud outage on Christmas Eve.

You Call This non Sexist?

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I really don’t want to give CNN, Anderson Cooper, or Kathy Griffin (whoever the hell that broad is) any more attention. But since I have discussed sexism on a number of occasions), here is the TV-MA segment on the New Years Eve coverage on CNN, the Cable [No] News Network
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bkoUkf2KDD4]

Why aren’t Women not Being Held Accountable?

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As a male with a disability (in the head) it’s very hard to be in society when women have a dominating force. I hate to say this, but the War on Women has already been confirmed as a victory years back. Its really the War on Men.
I just don’t get why girls get so offended by men and labeling them as creepy people when its really them that have wanted (or dare I say whored) attention the first place! They wear reveling outfits, and show off various assets, and if we just look at them for only 5 seconds (which is 5 minutes in their overreacted minds), its considered as sexual harassment!
But if I see some complement that I feel is vulgar on a comment on a Facebook picture for a attention whoring girl, I can’t be offended, because the person that commented to their friend is really just being normal and its all good – even if I find if offensive and harassing. I think you as the smart reader know the after effect if I made a similar statement?
The Federal Law on Sexual Harassment does say its illegal for men to do, and its legal for women to do. Where is that written? It’s not, but thin skinned women, and all the feminist (reversed-racism) groups from the sixties did. The Wikipedia article is as progressive as you can get, explains how it was made up. They wanted to create a problem and blow it up out of proportion! Certain groups have made up problems!
The publicly funded school systems in special education have taught us how be appropriate with our assets. Our only asset if you know where I am coming from is down near my crotch known as the penis. Our parents have taught us when and where we are supposed to use that part of our body. Now how come girls are not being taught that? Like not touching your breasts whether to show off or whatever else and posting similar described acts on Facebook via picture or wear appropriate clothing out without feeling creeped out?
Girls have not been taught accountability, its our “nanny state movement” like sex harassment and some of the loonie lawyers out there. If they get hurt feelings, they’ll make a phone call to the anti male lawyer Gloria Alread (which in some dictionaries defines her as Gynophobia) sue the shit and slanders more black men than whites! And those 98% classy black men can’t sue Allred back for slander.
Let me put it this way to close it up, you can’t be sexy and not expect certain attention.

“Definition of ‘Marriage'”

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Now that I am not seeking future relationships, I have the time to start discussing the bigger picture of how this blog was intended to be.
Have you seen my banner and the various statements, phrases and questions about “Relationships”? The title of this story, is called “Definition of ‘Marriage'” this phrase was derived as legalese. The reason that phrase is legalese, was a community I used to live several years ago wanted the local board to send a memo to the State legislature of the town’s view on marriage. My state has approved homosexual marriage a few years ago. The community, which was (and is) extremely fiscal and very socially conservative, had taken advantage of using the ballot to vote their views.*

* I did not vote on that question, because its technically illegal to put such question in a “town meeting” legislature, since the ballot is supposed to be electing board members and approving the budget. This never was challenged on the legality. Everyone in town talked about the legality of marriage, and never about the legality of the question being put on a “ballot.” The other things, like this issue would be done on a Saturday meeting at the local school and holding up a card for approval/disapproval and the “townies” going up to speak about their approval or disapproval of various questions up for vote. (If you have watched Gilmore Girls, its kinda like that, only once a year mind you.)

I totally digress. I should avoid talking about politics only if politics effect relationships.
I’ve wondered about the views on marriage really is. It’s cheaper to not get married because of the lovely taxation that is only going to get worse. Having a kid ups the taxation. If you have a disability, and you receive Social Security or SSDI or SSI, a combined relationship means a consolidation of checkbook ledgers, which means your bennies may go down.
What really bugs me is how people have to put such mental and physical stress and typically the groom’s family putting money down for a wedding, that apparently becomes a writedown when the divorce comes along.
Getting married before legally the Mr. & Mrs. is very costly, and I’m not talking about the costs of a divorce! Divorces are very costly, and depending on who got screwed over (assuming a case of infidelity), may or may not get even more screwed because of losses of assets. If I were you, I’d be keeping asset log in case you loose precious items leading up to a divorce.
And who really gets screwed – the children! If couples have kids, this really shows how immature their parents are. The yuppitie yuppies always whine It’s for the Chillldreeenn! So divorcing is good “for the children?'”
We have to credit Hollywood for their leadership of having out of wedlock children, getting married and getting divorced as simple as clicking on the drop box on your Relationship Status on Facebook.
I’m not even talking about homosexual marriage like where this title originated from. I find heterosexual relationships is the most at danger. There is no meaning to “marriage”, again just talking about heterosexual marriage. I’m someone who thinks about money alot, and given this crappy economy, I would think money would be a strong decision maker for marriage. I just don’t get it.
I find doing a prenuptial is wrong. If you love someone so much to death, why is there a need to do a prenup? If anything you should do a will before a prenuptial.
I find the people who also tout traditional marriage are the ones that are doing the total opposite of what they are preaching.
What say you? Do you think marriage is overrated, or underrated. What is your “definition of  ‘marriage'”?

New Year – New Self

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I’m starting to slowly change my way of thinking. Beginning in 2012, I started a new process, such as thinking small goals and targeted plans. Part of that was a better organizational plan, implementing new technology (such as an iPhone and an iPad last summer) and trying to have a “system” – something I haven’t had for years since not being in school.
So as 2013 is just a baby in comparison (you are almost a full day if you are Down Under and you Left Coast brats are still waiting to see the ball drop in a tape delay) here is part of the plan as stated in the Countdown:

  • I am in the process of a new contract for my services and the lone goal is
  • to find a job or go into a work program
  • find staff for “caretakers” to go and do my day to day errands such as getting office supplies,  going to the local mall and clothes shopping or to the movies or candle pin bowling at least once a week.
  • The plan is to phase out of trying to socialize, and focus on just working to get financial independence; and time out of the house. I’ve planned for this because as I have mentioned last year, the only thing going forward in my life.
  • Autism and other pervasive developmental diseases or disorders is still “new”. This status hasn’t changed since 1980. Especially when the boom started in 1987, and many guys (since most numbers of ASD are males – yeah its so fucked up) are in the similar boat as I am. What this means in plain English, is there aren’t many support groups that intermingle with “normal” people, or focuses on just ASD, or just adults, or groups that aren’t “motherly” orientated.  Until there is better awareness and better support groups, or hangouts with normal people, I will basically be waiting when that time comes.
  • In CY2012, I effectively decided to avoid college all together.  This plan is still in tact for CY13
  • Romantic relationships are limited to none from this day on,  due to many factors. I’m almost 26. Many people my age (and older – I don’t go younger than a few years) are “In a Relationship”, they have trashed every other people in their life to be with their lover. Secondly, most females peak at sexuality at their mid twenties, and even tho I have no experience, it’s a dream to have a girl that has modest assets or attributes. Third, I live in an affluent area, where there a lot of high quality people. Coming from a farmer area, and from a low middle class family with limited to zero privileged background, I don’t think a girl from around here would appreciate me given that most girls are selfish, narcissistic and not appreciated.  Lastly, given my difficulties in relationships, most girls have not patience. My Quick Reference Card to Relationships says that “Good looking girls are taken, and the not so looking ones live with their parents. The best girl for a relationships are very popular, and there aren’t that many that are single. And the most ideal girl is too good to be true.

In 2010, I had a few friends. By the end of that year, it dwindled down to just a couple.
By 2011, those friends that left were out of my life indefinitely
By 2012, I went through one of the most painful stages of my life of having to accept I do not have the ability to have any relationships outside of professionalism.
I never thought I’d cry loosing friends. I thought I’d never be upset because I felt I was too smart, or was afraid of saying the wrong thing that I could go to the local institution.
I give attribution to those feelings to the local school district backed by unions; the state government and the federal government, which is where I’ve given up my freedoms to get certain services.
So how am I going to approach 2013 and relationships?

  • Don’t use the Internet that much anymore to socialize. I can’t use my HP/Compaq nc6400 or my late 2006 MacBook without worrying about it catching on fire thanks to the massive code clutter thanks to the adolescents running publicly held dot-com companies. These jerks have no accountability, and because of these bloated websites, why waste my time waiting an hour to finish something “on the cloud” and just do something locally on the intranet/SharePoint site?
  • When my birthday comes, fuggedaboutit! My birthday is easily forgotten. In CY12, on my 25th birthday, it was no biggie, it was “just another day.” This year, it will be just another day. I don’t see any parties or anything big out of it. I’ve learned that as much as you want to whore attention, people will ignore little things like a birthday, something that basic logic says about a friendship.
  • Be more self-reliant. Asking for help is for p***ies. Real people do things on themselves
  • Kiss the pain of 2010-2012 goodbye. All social circles that prior to 2010 are null and void. They are dead in my head; and they don’t deserve mention on this blog anymore. I’ve already set it in stone prior to, so if you want to look back and learn more
  • Work or stay home This is achieved by ether working out in the wild and or home, and staying home for a majority of time outside of generic errands.
  • Do not advocate. The world is retarded period. Why should I waste my time trying to convince an ignorant person that someone with ASD has a future?
  • The world might not ended on 12-21, but it is effectively dead. Thanks to new technology and media that has ruined society; we are now in a world where corruption is ramped, people are becoming more and more anti social by using social media; while traditional “anti social” people will become more social, because of their off net* skillsets. We will know how to socialize when everyone else is not. As sick and perverted as it is, people are becoming more and more narrow minded and they won’t be able to discuss things that aren’t in their own viewpoints. On top of that the world of the news media is gone, and people won’t know how to get news because they never were immune and if they get news it may be opinions because the news is becoming “entertainment” thanks to the TV business having 90% of the work force of people who kiss the mirrors and touch themselves in a certain area, an appropriate word is “narcissistic.” I’ve priced in that the world is pretty much dead; and I’m walking like a zombie.

*sorry I’m a telecom/voice guy, and I’m mixing tech terms onto this blog.
So 2013, is a year where I’ve came to realization and now that realization will be tested with the expectations I have envisioned during the time of realization.
Welcome 2013!