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Transitions? OMG That’s an Awesome idea…

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…but why are you 10 years behind the 8 ball?

I sit on a planning committee of an annual conference for families who live in my state -the state I live in, and I sit and have to listen to a couple hours almost every month about people presenting ideas about transition planning.

And I sit there quietly like a wallflower.

I sit like I have severe autism.

I remain quiet.

I don’t like to come off as threatening or combative.

I just sit there.

And hopefully people of the intellectual class and the professional class gets their heads out of their rear ends and understand that while this is good for the second or third generation of autistics (or developmentally disabled people) in my state, the state I live in – what about the thirtysomethings who are limping around the system just trying to get through a day? Some may not be able to verbalize because they can’t put their concerns into words, or they have been severely manipulated by a bunch of racist psychologists who think its OK to ruin a child’s brain at their teenage years, and screw them off as they become adults and not have any clue what unintended consequences they do to these people.

Excuse me for being crass: I could care less about the goddamned spoiled rotten brats in special ed! Who gives a flying bleep about “the children!” What about the goddamned adults that the professionals could care less about?

I wished I wasn’t a monster, but I sadly became one in many ways thanks to the goddamned idiots running SAU 12, GLEC and dare I say “Doctor” Teresa Bolick who with all their failures caused me to become a scary person. Now I know why people run away from me. It’s these nitwits that should be on death row!

The controlled rants are over. 🙂

If you’re new to this site, let me be clear: I live in a state where we were the first in the nation to close a statewide “school” for autistic like people; but its also the same state where people have pushed “progressive” agendas that have resulted in “regressive” actions. I also live in the most richest towns probably per capita and those communities have absolutely zero tolerance for people with developmental disabilities (if you are under the age of say 21.) You (or your child, your “friend” from elementary school, or family member) has basically been hopeless since entering middle school; and some of these people have been hopeless as early as the end of the 20th Century. 

The Need to Be Happy

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Has anyone watched The Kardashians lately? I watch some reality shows for pure entertainment and to put my life into perspective.
Outside of the sisters the Jenner girls and the Jenner boys, one guy stands out of the bunch lately. That is Robert Kardashian Jr. also known as Rob.
For the last couple seasons (at least) he’s been in a rut. I think last summer it had something to do with his late father and how each one of the kids interaction with him prior to his cancerous death about a decade ago. Rob at the time was about 16 (actually we share the same almost actual birthday – I think he was born March 11? I was the 12…)  and the girls were in their early 20s except for Khloe who is only 2 years older than Rob. That first bout of depression was featured last summer in a 2 part therapy session discussing that specific time with cutaways of him tearing up and crying throughout those episodes.
He was so depressed that same season where he was living with one of the sisters and was sleeping during the day. Totally an emotional wreck you probably thought it was Kim with all this alleged depression.
Now this season of the series Rob’s got another bout of depression. Hes gotten fat. Why am I surprised and shocked, shocked, I ask? It wouldn’t be surprising given his lazy bum demeanor, eating, not exercising (sorry I should rephrase that since I don’t how what hes going thru and I don’t know him) and who knows what else. So now hes depressed about his weight. (I share the same feelings Rob!)
He didn’t go to a family trip to Greece with both the Jenner and Kardashian family. On episode 1 he was planning to go, and actually dragged Brody Jenner to come with them. Brody is kinda like the Rob in the 1st Gen of the Jenner family presently the one of the low self esteem and being forgotten in the bigger family.
Well Brody went – sans Rob. And the 3rd and final episode of the Greece trip will be Sunday night – and I am not a betting man, but I don’t think Rob will show up.
Earlier in the season, Kris Jenner (the mother) was trying to lift Rob’s spirits. (This isn’t the first episode that featured someone trying to help Poor Ol’ Rob – make it a Bakers Dozen – I’ve lost count!) Among the many catchphrases in the theme of Rob’s depression its phrases like “I want him to be happy” or “I want you to follow your heart” or something like “do something that makes you happy.”
I’ll end there with the show and move onto this whole need “to be happy.”
I think there has been an idea floating around for about a generation or so about this need to be happy. Happiness likely comes within. You can choose to be happy, and Rob obviously chose a certain path for quite a while now.
However another argument is that there is something called a “quarter-life crisis” – a smaller degree to the mid life crisis. Some would argue that is making these Milennial types an excuse to not move forward with their life, but  I think there is some validity to that argument too.
I think this goes back to all groups (not just for autistics – but for everyone) of a lot of “mixed messages” that starts in the high school level. According to “experts” the brain now peaks in the mid 20s, as opposed to the teenage years, I beg to differ, but the underlying problem is just how poor communication people are talking to teenage and the young population. You have one side that says “you should do this”  vs. another side “you can do this.” This doesn’t help manners for anyone.
I think people need to realize that the younger population of teenagers and adolescents and then some that when they become the age of being independent they are often confused, therefore causing a depression that can be totally averted.
However, on the flip side of the token, maybe society and as a group of people maybe we need to redefine what is “happiness”, what defines is, how should you be happy, is it a requirement and what do you do if you aren’t “happy,”
I feel the word “Happy” or “Happiness” or “Follow Your Dreams” has hit the cliche level – and whats happening (and its been going on for at least the last 20 years – in the masses) is we are getting people depressed for reasons that might be averted. Its not necessarily self-esteem, or the self-gratification or self-absorbed behavior, I am happy to report that this isn’t has a hot button issue like explained.
Its a systemic issue that needs to be fixed because as a teenager – your mind is very vulnerable. It’s not just growing, its at risk for any damages such as mental junk to go into your brain.
And for the Kardashians? Some of their problems are real, however it is sadly dramatized which I fear that family problems in the real world get dramatized like in the show. That kinda makes me a little on the edge.
However the only suggestion I could give to Rob Kardashian, is to get some help. It doesn’t look good that hes on TV looking the way he has been, that’s for sure.
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Busy bodies and busy Relationships

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It’s rather interesting how people today are lacking relationship skills and not just social skills ether.  I blame this on airplanes, the Web and just the acceptation that its okay to screw someone and jump around jobs like its no ones business.
I’ve been using Match.com for nearly a couple of months and I do not like to engage a user that lives in New Hampshire but lived in Colorado for a decade or someone who lives in Boston who came from the Midwest and loves everything about Boston. Simply, I know there is more to New England than the City itself. I love Springfield, Hartford, Providence, Burlington, and Worcester! Isn’t that a surprise!
(Of course, I withheld Portland or Augusta because Maine sucks – I’ve  been there enough to say they are weirdos and hicks – that’s why I don’t visit there that often!)
I digress.
However, this kind of busy lifestyles doesn’t work well with someone who has difficulty transitioning from one place to another. I rarely moved in my lifetime, only about 3 or 4 miles of where I spent most of my first 23 years of my life. When I was 23, it was about 12 or so miles that I moved from the previous town I lived in.
The problem in three words? Lack of  Loyalty.
I grew up in New Hampshire, and traveled around the region, I wouldn’t trade this area for anywhere else. I have some, and I say some pride of where I live. Many of my peer groups does not have such level of some respect.
And this to me is a problem. The Millennial generation (i.e. the synthetically autistic types) are still acting like teenagers as some in this generation are 36 years old. For some reason we have allowed the vast majority of the normal functioning population to act like autistics while my group are expected to function as normal as possible. Which explains why marriage is much later and having children at a later age is happening. Dare I say having a child in their 30s can cause birth defects or even disabilities like autism. Even worse north of 40? These childish people are relying on unreliable technology to have children at a later age.
Again, I am probably making a low educated opinion on this, but craved stability since middle school. Even when I rarely moved physically, I went to several schools in almost every 2 years.  The staff in the schools had a very short shelflife too. Again, they were the twentysomethings figuring their lives out with the most mission critical job required of such lack of responsibilities. On top of the very young age, the other excuse was “they need to start somewhere”.

I feel sometimes I’ve worked in the local TV news business, when one’s job security (historically) was lot worse than other jobs like working in the public sector, the phone company, or corporate jobs, and if someone got randomly fired, their career in TV news was actually “cursed”.  The Special Education world worked much like a particular Boston news station, and to use such analogy is pretty pathetic. Because no individual should feel like their classroom is a newsroom of a revolving doors of producers (teachers) or director (executive management) while the child (student) is like the viewer witnessing dysfunctional news operation.

Though I feel that loyalty the lack thereof is a roadblock to future relationships for me. How can I get “locked into” a relationship if the girl wants to move to California or Houston or some other random place in 2 years?
I can’t live such life anymore. I can’t imagine anyone living like that.

Distrust in women

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As this year approached, I came to a conclusion that maybe, just maybe its not meant to be for me to be in any form of romantic, sexual or other forms of close relationships. Maybe I’ll be wrong or maybe I am right, who knows.
What I do know is I have lost tremendous faith in women. I’m not going into deep, but it’s really sad how the state of affairs are with women and how they treat men. As I have grown up, I have never looked down at women at such level than ever before. There are a number of reasons why women should be made ashamed for, as it follows

  • Media – I can’t say that enough. The media is very brutal, coarse and just plain cruel. The problem is not the media or the message, is the girl who is watching it and has no editoral judgement whatsoever. Girls and probably every other younger and dumber population is so retarded that they can’t analyze or go into it with a skeptical mind.  They watch Sex and the City and insist that the message of the portrayal of Manhattanites is so true, when its really dramatized. Lacking editorial judgement is real problem, not just the media that’s out there.
  • I am not one who says “take the TV out of their room” like some talking head at 8:00pm Eastern would suggest, but at least ether monitor what your daughter watches or have a dialogue. Media is much more massive in the last 10 years not due to the Web, but social media really just accelerated the coarse content. You could attempt to get away of it, but when MySpace and Facebook came around, one couldn’t get away of an Abercrombie-like photo of soft-porn PDA. I might actually have that pic and I’ll attach it if I find it.
  • Fathers (or lack there of) – I can’t stress this even more. Whether or not the parents are divorced or not is not the problem. I believe its the father that goes dormant as soon as the girl goes into menarche and starts wearing training bras. Just like I have mentioned earlier, while the mothers (and fathers) instruct autistic boys, how to control their hormones when dealing with the opposite gender, girls appear to not be taught the same standards. It’s really bad that these girls apparently aren’t getting the love, the tough love or concern of their daughter, from their father.
  • Girls (young ladies) are really indecent more than ever before, and no it’s not that Facebook and a older mind is seeing things much differently, its because there is huge generation of young and dumb individuals who were raised by dumb Baby Boomers, and this kind of style was prelveant in the 1960s.
  • This same offspring includes a vast majority of narcissistic types who think that being a celebrity pays off.  Not so much if you are Jodi Arias, a woman in Arizona who was recently convicted of killing her boyfriend facing the death penalty. This woman is not only crazy, but pretty psychotic. The tax paying citizens of Arizona had been droned for more than 4 months of testimony factored in with the media sensationalizing the story (although it deserves some merit that Pretty Girls Kill.) She’s a hardcore camera whore too, within an hour after her verdict nearly a month ago, she got an interview of a local TV station, and also got camera time with ABC’s GMA, and so on. I can go on, but simply put I never heard anything about her father, I did hear she was abused when she was younger, but boy, this chick deserves the hell that she had caused with her family, the boyfriend’s family and the tax paying citizens of Arizona which will have to flip a bill on one of the most slowest murder trials in a few years, again it was so she could get all the attention she thought she deserved, not to just have a through trial.
  • Suburban types – Girls grow up at a fast pace in the suburbs. They start drinking in like eighth grade and their behavior goes well into her thirties. They want to act like mature women wearing mature outfits but they never take the responsibilities of a woman when it comes to any aftermath of such hard partying. Drinking clouds the world around you and you only see your drunken peer. These types of ultra rich, lack of responsible people that are often found in the outskirts of the metro area is another form of women I cannot trust. (BTW: not encouraging in “redistributing the wealth” ether – its just a responsibility issue of rich people.

As you can understand now, this is why I have a bias against women. I’ve never met a bitch I truly liked and all the good ladies are professionals to me, already married or taken. I really don’t understand why so many of these bitches can’t grow up and learn to not be such a snobby jackass.
In closing, I have zero respect for women.

Twentysomethings Moving Back in with their Parents

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Fault of the Obummer Economy or Plain Ol’ *Loosers*?
Bloomberg News ran this little blurb recently about the rise of young adults moving back in with their parents.
I understand that people born before 1960 had this mentality that as soon as you finished college, you’d live on your own or live with roommates  and if you lived with your parents, you’d be shunned by your peers. However with this legitimate Great Recession, I can understand some of those numbers, some would be safe to say they are the “llooossser” types. Also, lets not forget that the numbers of people with autism disorders born from 1987 to 1992, are turning that magic number of 21, and as soon as they turn 21*, they are out of school and in many cases out of work because the work programs are owned by the school systems.
*Minimum IDEA regs for services end at 21. Only 10 of the 50 States (the Liberal ones like NY, Mass, California have it at 22 and states like Michigan, IDEA cutoff is 26 believe it or not!)
I do get sensitive because in this Bloomberg piece, they do show a bias towards men that are moving back in, and of course that’s offensive to my group because there are stereotypes that anyone with autism are those lost looking little boys or just a plain old socially stupid PDD types or just men acting like regular jerks while they have their Asperger label. I came from a filthy rich town and I was very scared of finding my significant other because of the stereotypes of society, its like who wants to date a guy whose on the lower class side and suffers with a brain disorder?
I don’t trust the MSM that much, and I know there is an anti male bias to many of their reports (don’t forget how they had put focus on the autism stories a few months ago and how they put emphasis of how the boys have higher rates than girls – there goes that stupid boy innuendo again!)